Sunday, April 09, 2006
Grandaughter Gone Bad
This is a mug shot of my 20 month old Grandaughter. She has started to spend a couple of days a week at a daycare. My son called me the other day. He was able to get away from the shop a little early and went to pick her up. The call went like this.
"Dad, I thought I'd better call you before you heard it from some other source."
"I just picked up Madilyn Rose from daycare.... they gave me an incident report on her."
"What's an incident report?"
"Well, if a child is guilty of doing something.."
"Uh Dan, she's a baby." "By the way, what'd she do?"
"She threatened a little boy."
"She's a baby, how'd she do that?"
"She had a Jack in the Box in her hand."
"Well, I guess I used to be scared of them myself."
"Says here on the report that the child was removed from the area and talked to about playing nicely with her friends."
"Dan, she's a baby."
"I know Dad."
"Dan, what are you going to do now."
"Oh that, frame it I guess."
As an addendum to this: Incident reports have always been around. Those of us who grew up on country school playgrounds with K-8th graders all on the same recess break, used to get them when someone about 6 years older than you, pinned you on the ground and explained the 'rules' of play.
This girls Father (my son) got one from the Elementary Principal back when he was in school.
The Principal said: "Cliff, did Dan tell you that He and I had a visit last week".
Me:"No, what happened."
Mr C:"Well, I picked him up by the shirt collar and pinned him against the wall, and we had a face to face visit about how when he caused trouble on the school bus, it caused me trouble." "And then I told him I didn't like trouble."
Me: "Do I need to talk to him?"
Mr C: "No, we got it handled, I wouldn't do that with just anyone's kid, but I knew you wouldn't mind?"
Me: " You were right."
When the above little girl gets to the age where she crosses from needing guidance to discipline, her Mom and Dad will handle that. Her Dad, at least, has had some experience in that field. Keeping children on the straight and narrow shouldn't involve someone building a future court case with 'incident reports'. It's all about adults acting like the adults around kids.