There is a big grey area in marriage. At least for us men. An example is, I could say "I love you", exactly the same, 3 times, and get 3 entirely different responses.
Having lunch with my Wife, I could put down my sandwich and say "I love you". She would rise, kiss me on the forhead and with a voice usually reserved for infants say, "Oh, I love you too".
If I said "I love you" during her favorite television show, she might quickly say "well I love you too", and then turn her attentions immediately back to the tv.
If I shut the light out and get in bed, "I love you" will likely get this response "huh, I was asleep". I say "no you weren't, you just laid down". She says "well I was asleep, I'm tired".
I bring this up because last night, as I laid down with her I said, "Beans were up 24 cents today". "Wow", she says. I said "I have them in the Property Statement at $5.15 per bushel and they're at $5.60 right now, a couple more good up days and we'd have about ten thousand dollars we hadn't planned on". Now she's awake. "Really"? "Yeah" I said, "it would help offset the fifteen thousand dollar increase we're going to have in fertilizer and fuel". My pessimistic words completely dampen her mood and interest, now suddenly half asleep she mumbles "we just can't get ahead". I said "we're already ahead". She asks "we are"?
"Yes" I said, "we have each other".
Now my hearing isn't perfect, but I'm sure she mumbled (almost asleep at this point) "oh puke".
I asked "What....oh puke"?
And then as she faded completely away I heard a faint "oh did I say that outloud"?
There is obviously something about a bed that makes married men very, very, boring.